1. Stop trying to be perfect and be unique
If you are still functioning under the delusion that perfection exists, wake up!
It doesn’t! Being imperfect is a beautiful thing, it’s like the difference between an exquisitely
handcrafted piece of artwork and a mass produced item you might find at
Walmart. One is unique and intriguing, the other is boring.
2. Stop caring about what others think
When you boil it down, you are either living for yourself, or living for others, who,
incidentally, may not even be aware of you or your actions.
3. Do more of what you love
This one speaks for itself, it is so obvious, so life changing, and sadly, so overlooked.
4. Do less of what you dislike
The obvious and often overlooked counterpart to tip number 3.
5. Spend quality time with people you love
Relationships with people you love (who love you back) are foundational to emotional wellness.
Feed them and you will feel better!
6. Practice gratitude
Practicing gratitude lights us up on the inside, and literally lights up the self-healing energies in your
body. These same energy circuits connect us to true joy and a deep sense of well-being.
It’s no mystery why being grateful makes us happier and healthier!
7. Focus on effort over achievement
It’s too easy to overlook the amount of work we put into something and the growth we achieve from it when we don’t get the results we want. This is especially relevant in parenting. If we teach our children that the only value is in the outcomes they will often give up without even trying. But if we emphasize that we are proud of the effort they put forth regardless of the results, they will be encouraged to repeat the process the next time they face a challenge.
8. Take good care of yourself
You take good care of your kids, your pets, your plants, your yard – but are you taking the same good care of yourself? Do you see to it that you eat three nutritious meals every day, don’t watch too much tv, exercise and get fresh air on a regular basis, and get plenty of sleep every night? In short, are doing what
you should to be healthy, happy and thrive?
9. Keep your energy balanced
This is so easy, just practice Donna Eden’s 10 minute Daily Energy Routine. When your energy is balanced you just feel good!
Take advantage of any excuse to celebrate life – birthdays, anniversaries, good report cards, professional accomplishments, holidays, Fridays, a beautiful Sunday afternoon with nothing to do, etc. Celebrations don’t have to be loud and accompanied by balloons or alcoholic beverages, they can also be quiet and sweet, like walking hand in hand with your child down a quiet path in the woods, quietly celebrating being together.
Iheard this from my coach this morning - 'you are always only one thought away from changing your life!' She's right, of course. But how do I bridge the gap between where I am and the one thought that will change my life??
What is that one thought and why is it so elusive? Has my life changed since this morning, when it entered my awareness? That one thought has been circulating...and continues on the spinning merry-go-round of my mind.
I know where I am - stuck, in an old pattern. I know where I want to be - free from that old pattern. Simple enough. But I can't quite seem to get my leg across from standing in stuck to standing in free - where is that darn thought
that will take me there?
Maybe it's the other way around. Maybe I'm already there, and it's the thought that doesn't let me see it, or in this case, the series of thoughts, that keep obscuring my view. Those are the thoughts that say 'too risky,' 'back up!' and 'careful, you might just get what you want.' These thoughts remind me of some deep belief that this place is not safe - too open, too free, too completely unhindered and alive...too good to be true. Wait, that's it! I've found it - the thought that acts like a straight-jacket, that sinks my foot in the mud of stuckness - TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE.
I am one thought away from changing my life - and the new thought is...TOO FREE TO CARE...how about you? What one thought would change your life today?
Greetings! The arrival of autumn and the hint of a chill in the air reminded me that it was time for another seasonal newsletter! Seasons change from one day to the next in the south, it seems like we were just sweating our way through the Indian Summer...
The turning and falling of leaves brings a theme of letting go of the past and clearing the way for future growth. Exploring this theme from the perspectives of Mindfulness, Coaching and Energy Medicine led to some interesting overlaps and distinctly separate insights. At the link below you'll find my latest newsletter with three takes on the theme of 'Letting Go.' In it, you'll find pratical advice on approaching this topic from the perspectives of Mindfulness, Coaching and Energy Medicine, as well as exercises to try yourself.
Don't forget to savor the good things that the year has brought you before you move into winter hibernation and preparation for the new spring!
"You surrender to a lot of things which are not worthy of you. I wish you would surrender to your radiance, your integrity, your beautiful human grace."
Paige Continentino is a Transformational Life Coach and Energy Medicine Practitioner, who also teaches Meditation and Mindfulness.
This website, www.paigecontinentino.com, www.soulslightenergyhealing.com, does not purport to diagnosis, treat, operate on, or prescribe for any human disease, pain, injury, deformity, or other physical or mental condition. Paige Apgar is not a licensed mental health professional and does not practice, or purport to practice, medicine.
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